Why the Buddy System Works Better Than Planning Apps or Journals for Neurodivergent People

You might be wondering why you should pay for a buddy system when there are free or low-cost apps and journals out there.

We get it, but consider these benefits:

1. Real-Time Human Support

  • Apps and journals are passive tools; they require self-initiation, which can be difficult for people with executive functioning challenges.

  • A Buddy provides active, real-time support, helping with task initiation, motivation and follow-through—especially useful for those who benefit from body doubling or external accountability.

2. Emotional Connection & Encouragement

  • Neurodivergent individuals often experience burnout, overwhelm, or anxiety around tasks.

  • A Buddy offers empathy, encouragement and validation, which apps cannot replicate. This emotional support can reduce shame and increase confidence.

3. Adaptability & Personalisation

  • Apps are often rigid and usually designed for neurotypical workflows.

  • Buddies can adapt their approach to suit the individual's communication style, sensory needs and energy levels—whether that means using visual aids, breaking tasks into steps, or adjusting routines dynamically.

4. Reduced Cognitive Load

  • Journals and planning apps require mental effort to set up, maintain and interpret.

  • Buddies help externalise that cognitive load, guiding the person through planning and decision-making without overwhelming them.

5. Accountability Without Pressure

  • Apps can feel impersonal or punitive when tasks are not completed.

  • Buddies offer gentle accountability, celebrating progress and adjusting expectations without judgement.

6. Building Routines Through Relationship

  • Routine-building is more effective when it’s co-created with someone who understands your needs.

  • Buddies help establish sustainable habits by working alongside the individual, not just tracking them.

7. Flexibility for Fluctuating Needs

  • Neurodivergent people often have variable energy, focus, and sensory tolerance.

  • A Buddy can respond to these fluctuations with compassion, unlike static tools that expect consistency.